This is actually comical to me.... I started to think... What actually are MY deal breakers for relationships? And this goes for friendships too.... Sooo far I have this... This has also helped me to realize why I prefer to spend a vast amount of my time in solitude...
1.) lying, no white lies either. ( I feel like cheating is just lumped into this (lying gets #2 started, it's all down hill from there))
2.) if I get a stomach ache being near or thinking of you on a regular basis... (That's my intuition talking, not needing to shit, it feels different 😂🤷)
3.) if you enter my life under the ruse of being a friend with different intentions (that breaks #1 and typically gets #2 going)
4.) manipulation, of any kind... (Sorry without change is manipulation...(Gets #2 rolling))
5.) if you're not open to change/growth (I will not stagnate with anyone, I'll decay when I die, no sense in doing it while I'm still breathing (will eventually get #2 to kick in))
6.) if you display toxic jealousy or it gets projected on to me because you're insecure. ( I genuinely want others to succeed, or I don't, but I don't sit in your face smiling and pretending... I'm sure you earned it or will earn whatever you will get out of the life you're living, good or bad. (also effects #2)
7.) if you need attention from the whole village, it's one thing to naturally attract, it's another to seek.... ( I don't like "pick me" energy, it seems like desperation for external validation, also stirs up #2)
8.) kids under the age of 15 (I did my time already. I like my sleep, and freedom. Kids are messy, gooey, loud and depending on if hormones are getting going.... it's.... I'm good, by 15 most want very little to do with their parents) <(this one's dating only)
9.) if you don't reciprocate (there's a lot of ways to show you fucking care)
10.) if you are nosey and gossip...(What goes on in other people's lives, or what you heard about through the "grapevine" from ten years ago is none of your business, it speaks volumes to your character and how boring of a meat sack you really are, not the person your talking about... Oh yeah, and get a fucking hobby loser (this one just makes me mad but it also effects #2))
11.) if you consistently drive in the passing lane and don't let people pass you (I won't be able to be in a car with you...when I figure this out I'm just as consistently judging you in my mind and think you're an inconsiderate asshole every second your unnecessarily in that lane, I eventually will bring it up and then talk shit to you and let you know I think you're part of the problem)
12.) if you flaunt money/materials around like it's all that matters... (Some people can't be bought, it doesn't matter how much you have materialistically or monetarily to me if you are bankrupt in integrity, morality and your heart, I can earn money without you in my life, plus I'm always right where God wants me)
13.) if you break your own self imposed rules on the kind of people you want to surround yourself with just because you like them or want to date them..
( I only kick it with midgets, bro where are they? Reality to me... You're not agreeing with your own boundaries, how could you respect mine? )
So in a lot of ways I don't need to speak to someone much to know if they make me sick or not (#2)